March 19, 2010
If You Want Something Go And Earn It
A good mate of mine, Peter, is a fortunate fellow, when he was 17 his parents bought him a top quality car. He was very happy and showed off this car to all of his friends including myself.
His family run a business which offers a professional training for foster carers company hence the reason why they could afford to buy him a car.
I showed my father the car and stated that I would love a car for my seventeenth birthday. He responded with words like, I bet you would. My dad sold composite doors and also advised people on how to obtain Currys Voucher Codes; therefore he could afford to buy a car!
The day arrived, the day when I believed that I would be the poud owner of a car - unfortunately it did not happen - no car was forthcoming - I had a pair of trainers as my best present.
A year later I was now nearing my eighteenth birthday and my father asked me what I would like for my birthday. I told him that I would like a car and he started laughing. Even though he sounded less than enthusiastic I was confident that he would buy me a car.
My birthday arrived and yet again no car, the main present I received was a watch, a very nice watch I must add but again I was disappointed.
I waited a further two months and then decided to use the head on approach. I went to talk to my father and told him that I needed a car. He agreed so I asked him, so what are we going to do then? If it is so essential for you to own a car then go and purchase yourself a car - he replied. I pointed out to him that I was spending per week more than I was earning, socialising, buying clothes etc. He stated that I really wanted a car that I would make sacrifices to get it but also stated that whatever I saved he would match.
This very much annoyed me at the time, but something I am now grateful for as it has taught me that if you want something, you have to work hard and make sacrifices to obtain it.
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October 15, 2009
Understanding a Child’s Worries and Anxieties
As a parent it is important that we understand what potential problems our child has. Most children have certain things that they worry about or even fear. In this article, I write about the types of fears that this might be and about how we can help our children to cope and to get through life in the best possible and stress-free way.
I am by now a child social worker and what I write within this article is just my own personal opinion. I actually work within the stammering therapy industry; I am also involved with a DVD authoring company and with a group of cost reduction consultants.
The majority of children are more than capable of being able to pick up on the anxieties of their parents. They may hear arguments about money and can then start to worry themselves about the financial situation their family may be in. I am a parent myself and try where possible to only discuss serious issues with my partner when the children are out or are asleep. If I believe that one of my children has overheard a conversation which I would have rather they hadn’t, I then talk to them to attempt to reassure them that everything is OK.
Children may also worry that their parents may break up and that they will end up living apart. They will no doubt hear that this has happened to their friends and may wonder and stress about how their lives would change if this happened to them.
My children have told me that they worry and that they fear that one of their parents may die in the near future. It is quite difficult to explain to them that this is unlikely to happen as it obviously could. I try and laugh it off which may not be the best policy, by stating that I am still very young and that I have no plans to leave this planet in the near future. I explain to them the age that the average male will live to in our country and that normally, I hope, makes them feel better.
School can be another area of stress for some children. Will they be able to cope and understand the work? Will they be able to obtain a good examination mark and a good report? Will they be able to make their parents proud of them? I have told my own children not to worry about these issues and to just try their best.
Socialising and meeting friends can also bring its own tensions. Children make and break friends at regular intervals, especially during the early teenage years. It can be quite stressful when friends have a disagreement or argument. When this happens to my children, I make a point of saying that it has been the fourth time in a month that you and Amy as an example, have had a falling out. Your sure to make friends again in the near future.
As children get a bit older there is then the challenge of meeting a member of the opposite sex. We all know the problems and strains that this can bring. At this time I think it is just a matter of being there for your children and getting them through these difficult years the best and easiest way possible.
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